What Will We Talk About?
I generally find that before we start looking at ‘solutions’, we need to understand something about who you are. For instance, looking at your life experiences, your values, and how you think and feel about things. That’s because a problem that may seem on the surface to be shared by many other people (e.g. depression, or anger, or feeling ‘stuck’) can actually have very different roots in each case. And that means the best way forwards will be completely different for each person.
Our conversations may change from week to week: sometimes wide-ranging, energised and creative; other times more focused or deliberate, a sort of thinking-things-through together. But we will always have a clear intention. We will be working together to understand; to ease; to find your individual path towards change.
How Will It Be Different From A ‘Normal’ Conversation?
Therapy sessions are not like everyday chats. They involve both a wider-than-usual perspective on your life, and also a more forensic examination. We may think about what energises you, where you get stuck, what you long for. We’ll pay special attention to the bits of your experience that may be hidden from everyday sight, but which powerfully shape your views and your life.
The arc of our sessions is likely to include:
1. Exploring and Assessing: We will look together at what you’re facing, how it’s affecting different areas of your life, and what you might like to be different. We’ll get curious about your life-patterns, your coping strategies, and habits of thought – so we can start to make sense of your experience.
2. Observation and ‘Life Testing’: We will identify and engage your existing resources, challenge old habits where appropriate, and look at new tools for problem-solving where necessary. We’ll take time to observe, reflect, and deepen our understanding, at whatever pace is right for you. And as you begin to ‘test out’ new ways of being in the world, we’ll notice carefully how things affect you on a practical, physical and emotional level.
3. Consolidation and Ending: We will fine-tune and strengthen your new sense of self, and make sure it’s comfortably embedded in your daily life. We’ll review the changes you’ve achieved, look at how you might cope with any future difficulties, and ensure you leave feeling confident and resilient.